17 Things Woman Do Wrong in Bed

While we as woman like to think that we never do anything wrong, and it is the man’s fault something didn’t go right. There are a few of us woman that realize yes, there are things that we do that can completely ruin sex. So to help all of you clueless women out there that want to think they are doing sex right, I am supplying you with a list of things that WOMAN do wrong in bed.

You may want to pay attention to these little tips… if you really want to keep you man from fantasizing about other woman. And before you write to me and complain that there are more things that woman do wrong then men listed… get over it. This isn’t Cosmo or Glamour, my goal isn’t to make you think you are doing everything right… I want you to know what you are doing wrong so that you can improve your sexual relationship.

1 Thinking he should be ready for sex whenever you want it

Just because men are supposed to have a high sex drive doesn’t mean that they want sex all the time! If you decide you want sex, and he isn’t in the mood, don’t feel offended and think that he’s doing it deliberately – he’s probably heard the same thing from you many more times! Instead, use your feminine charms to seduce him. Let’s face it, women will always know how to get a man interested……and if he really isn’t, the answer is in your hands. You know where your clit is, so use it.

2 Believing that kissing has to be sweet and romantic

Sometimes the force of his passion will seem overwhelming to you. Suppose you’d like to have a gentle romantic session of kissing? Then, when you start, he begins to get passionate and starts to kiss you, shall we say, rather energetically. What to do? Maybe in these circumstances you should just surrender to passion and leave the romance for later?

3 Thinking men are responsible for giving you an orgasm

Hey honey, it’s YOUR orgasm, not his. He can’t give it to you, he can only help you get there. And that’s true even though he might think it’s his job. So don’t sit back and do nothing – tell him what you want, and if he isn’t doing it properly, how you’d like it to be done. And above all, give him feedback. he’s not a mind-reader.

4 Wondering why he has to go to sleep after sex

It’s just natural. Sometimes he might want to cuddle you; sometimes he won’t. While your orgasm makes you want to talk, bond and exchange sweet nothings, he wants to sleep. You just have to accept it isn’t personal.

5 Never trying any new sex positions

Variety is the spice of life my dear. The last thing in the world that should be the same old same old is sex. Try new positions, you may find that not only is your man satisfied, but you might find that you orgasm sooner or more often. There are so many positions out there to try. Eventually sex will turn into a whirl wind of fluid movements and positioning changes that will turn the two of you on.

6 Expecting him to be romantic and charming all the time

Remember, neither man nor woman can live by romance alone – no matter what passes for it in your household. Sometimes a man’s just gotta be a man. And while that doesn’t mean he should never be romantic, it just isn’t in a man’s nature to be romantic all the time, much as you might like it. Think of it this way – it’s a bit like him expecting you to behave like a female porn star all the time.

7 Thinking sex is just about your pleasure

I guess a lot of women think men are selfish in bed, but then they don’t think how they might please a man…do you suck his cock? Ask him if he’d like to try a little role play? Find out what he likes to have done to him? If not, stop reading the sensational crap in women’s magazines, and start asking your partner what he wants, and consider what sex can offer both of you within your relationship! I mean really! You want him to ask you what you want and do what you want… honey you need to do the same for him.

8 Reading the sex articles in magazines and thinking the advice they give is any good

Believe me, you’re never going to learn anything useful from magazine articles entitled “Ways to drive a man wild in bed”. Websites like this one, though, well, that’s a different matter altogether. Seriously, the best way to enjoy sex is to be aroused. The best way to be aroused is to be emotionally connected and intimate with your partner. It really is that simple. Communication and connectedness… sometimes it needs to be all about him… sometimes is needs to be all about you… but every time you both should be walking away… or rolling over satisfied with amazing sex.

9 Moaning about when he pushes your head towards his penis for oral sex

Well, true, he could just ask you for it, but then on the other hand maybe he’s sent you enough signals to tell you what he wants and you just ignored them? Men like oral sex, they like it a lot, and they want you to give it to them. Do you have to do it everytime you have sex? No, but every other time… couldn’t you give in for the sake of his pleasure.

10 Lying there like a log

I don’t care if you agreed to a quick screw before going to work or falling asleep, the biggest turn off for a man is when the woman just lays there. Understand this, while he may be looking forward to being satisfied he also wants to know that you are into what is going on, that you are enjoying what he is doing. Move a little, squeeze a little… if he wanted a no response he would get a blow up doll.

By just laying there all you are telling him is that you aren’t all that interested in his pleasure or needs, you just want it done an over with. So when he starts looking for a woman that is going to respond to his touch and enjoy sex… you will have no one to blame but yourself.

11 Not shaving – at least occasionally

It could be he’s one of the guys who gets off on websites like hairiest-horniest-pussies.com But then again, he might like you to look a little bit feminine, with your legs shaved and your armpits waxed. I’m not saying you need to do this, and you certainly don’t need to shave your pussy if you don’t want, but surely it’s nice to destubble for him once in a while rather than just doing it when you go the spa, isn’t it? Besides which, if you don’t shave, why should he?

Ok… I want to add that shaving should go beyond legs and armpits. Ladies… I understand that not all of you want to have a hairless vagina… that’s fine… but you can trim it. Keeping the vaginal area well manicured is just as important as shaving your legs. There are electric razors that have different blades on them to help you trim…. get out a pair of scissors and trim the hair, when you shave your legs, shave into the pubic hair so get it away from the legs.

The shorter the hair the better stimulation you will get because you are more accessible. Plus, during oral sex he isn’t getting a mouth full of hair and walking away with dental floss. Keep it short… you don’t have to shave it all off, just trim it.

15 Not having sex when you’re on your period

If you don’t want to have sex when you’re bleeding – though you might even find it erotic – then give him the best damn blow job he has ever had. Take your shirt off, get between his legs, let your breasts tickle and massage his penis and let your lips and tongue take over from there.

If you are concerned about the mess afterwards, put a towel underneath you and a wet wash cloth by the bed side. You would be surprised just how exciting and pleasurable sex can be during that otherwise dreadful time of the month.

16 Not washing before sex

While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, it’s never as nice as it might be if one of you is a little – well, ripe. Take the time to prepare – even if it’s earlier in the day – if you plan to have sex. While a twelve hour unwashed body might be perfectly acceptable, and a twenty four hour old body fine if you aren’t planning on getting your faces into each other’s genitals, it’s only a matter of consideration for your partner to be clean when you get intimate.

17 Asking questions right after sex

After sex is when you are suppose to be laying there enjoying the closeness of one another, this is not the time for life conversations. So don’t ask about the kids, don’t ask about work, don’t ask about this or that… just lay there and enjoy being close… kiss, hug.. caress…

14 Mistakes Men Make in Bed

Sex can be great, but there are lots of little pitfalls to avoid, simple things which can be passion killers for most, if not all, women. Not all these pointers will apply to all relationships, but why not avoid potential problems by seeing if any of them apply to yours?

You would think that most of what is listed here is plain common sense…. but there are still men that will do atleast one of these “No-no’s” in bed and then wonder why their woman isn’t raving tot he neighbors about what a great lover he is.

So here are 14 tips that you should take to heart, if you really want to see or feel a change in the excitement in the bedroom.

1 Going for her sexual areas (clitoris, vulva, breasts) without arousing her up first

Women take longer to get aroused than men, and often find touch to their genitals or breasts without adequate foreplay to be simply irritating. If you dive straight onto her vulva, clitoris or breasts, because that’s what you’d like her to do with your penis, you’re probably going to find that while you might get a hand on her bits, you won’t be invited back to play again.

2 Not knowing how to kiss sensitively

There are times for passionate sex, and there are times for more romantic sex. But no matter what kind of sex you’re having, most women really appreciate a good kisser – it’s such a romantic and intimate act and, done well, it can communicate to a woman exactly how you feel about her. Most women think of kissing as one of the most romantic things there is, and they value a man who knows how to do it well. So learn how to kiss sensitively, put some feeling into your lips as you do it, and don’t just resort to sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around. And the position you’re using for sex has a bearing on this, as well: kissing just isn’t possible in some of the more exotic sex positions – so, if it’s romance you’re looking for, man on top sex is as good as any.

3 Touching her breasts, clitoris and vulva too hard, too soon

Women appreciate a gentle touch to the clitoris – it’s a very sensitive organ, and you can’t handle it in the way you want your penis to be touched and expect her to respond by getting aroused – she’s more likely to kick you out of bed! To some extent the same is true of her breasts and vulva – it’s best to work up to touching them by kissing and touching around them first. Women become aware of their desire to be touched sexually by being touched on their non-sexual areas first. So take it slowly, put feeling into what you’re doing, and above all treat her clitoris with care. When she gets near to orgasm, a direct touch may well be more acceptable, and indeed may be needed to make her come, but “slowly, slowly” should be your motto when you’re enjoying foreplay. Furthermore, when you’ve actually got to penetration, don’t stop touching her. Even when you’re having sex in one of the more impersonal positions – like rear entry, for example – you can run your hands appreciatively over her body. For maximum touching, try sex in the side by side position.

4 Forgetting she has a body beyond her genitals

By which we mean, a body with a lot of skin which you can touch, caress, stroke, massage and kiss. Women feel sensuous during sex and enjoy skin to skin contact – so if you don’t spend time touching her all over, in a variety of ways that please her, you’ll miss out on one of the fastest ways to get her aroused. And focus on what you’re doing – she’ll know if you’re thinking about the football game as you stroke her. Try the more loving sex positions like side by side to see how much you can both enjoy sensual touching during sex.

5 Not taking the time to locate her erogenous zones

The sensitive spots that make her shiver with delight might be behind her knees, in the crook of her elbows, across her belly or on her earlobes, but if you don’t find them, she’ll assume you’re not really interested in her pleasure and probably mark you down as a second rate lover, selfishly concerned only with getting your cock into her vagina as soon as possible. Even if that last statement’s true, you need to take the time to find out what turns her on, and where those deliciously sensitive bits of her body are to be found. That’s the kind of thing that will make her see you as a considerate lover, and that will make her want to please you, which means you’ll have a much better time in bed. This knowledge will come in especially handy if you’re trying to go for a mutual orgasm while you make love: you can only get to her clitoris and breasts in certain positions. Once again, making love in the side by side position is probably a good way to ensure you can touch her erogenous zones – clitoris and breasts especially – while you make love.

6 Not paying attention to personal hygiene

This one right here should be a no-brainer! While there are the quick sex moments when the urge overtakes everything and the two of you just get down to business, this is not an everytime okay type of thing. Make sure that you are clean! Regardless of why that is, or even whether it’s right or wrong, just take note of the fact that if you turn up in bed with your armpits smelling of stale sweat, your foreskin harboring that special aroma, and your feet smelling like a slice of cheese, you’re not going to get much further until you’ve taken a quick trip to the bathroom.

7 Not shaving before sex

There’s nothing as unpleasant as a shaving rash – particularly when it comes from someone else’s stubble! Show her you care by shaving before sex, unless she’s expressed a desire to feel this sign of your manliness.

8 Trying to get into her before she’s ready or willing to be entered
One of the great things about sex is that it can vary so much from one occasion to another. This does, however, give you a problem. Sometimes you and she will want to get down to penetration and orgasm as quickly as possible; mostly, though, she’ll want things to work up to a climax more slowly. This means that no matter how eager you are to explore her vagina, you need to exercise some restraint. You need to skillfully judge the moment to enter her, whether with a finger or two, your penis, or indeed anything else, so that you don’t go in before she’s ready. By the way, that means before she’s mentally and emotionally ready – she may well be wet enough long before she wants anything put inside her vagina. You can judge this with experience by her desire, expressed in verbal or non-verbal form, to be penetrated. One helpful sign (apart from her begging you to put it inside her!) is a gentle wave like motion of her hips, or a kind of thrusting motion as she raises her vulva towards you..

9 Ejaculating two minutes after you enter her (or, worse, two seconds)

Sure, it can be difficult to control your ejaculation, to help you learn how to control your ejaculations you should spend some time reading http://artofintimacy.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/multiple-orgasms/ . Sex naturally involves a longish period of thrusting before a woman is fully satisfied. If you’re a quick ejaculator, you’re likely to have a very unfulfilled woman on your hands. She wants a long period of vaginal thrusting – unless she’s averse to penetration and intercourse – and she wants you to be able to control yourself so you don’t come before she’s satisfied. Indeed, that’s actually how sex should be for men: you should be able to choose when to ejaculate during intercourse. That’s how sex is meant to be.

10 Not giving her cunnilingus or masturbation

When you ask women to name their favorite sexual activity, many of them will say it’s oral sex. Women love the wetness, the warmth of your tongue on their labia and clitoris, the intimacy and the symbolic act of love that it entails. And it feels fantastic! So if you’re not making sure she gets enough “head”, you might just be leaving her disgruntled about how sex is going…..and the same is true if you don’t masturbate her from time to time. She’ll love you doing all these things, and she’ll return the favor in kind….

11 Stopping too soon, just as she’s getting to the point where she’s going to come

Men have a very clear route to orgasm in sex: they get aroused, they thrust, they get more aroused, they thrust harder, they ejaculate. It’s that simple. But it’s not like that for women: they can lose their arousal at any stage of sex, and it can slip away without warning. This makes it harder for men to know just what to do to keep their partner firmly on the road to orgasm – and what makes this worse is that women often get lost in their own sexual arousal, so they forget to tell their partner what they want. Your partner’s silence may be a sign of her sexual pleasure, but it’s not unreasonable to expect her to let you know how you’re doing – even if that’s only through moans of pleasure. She can communicate with you with single words (“yes”, “no”, “lighter”, “harder”, “faster”) no matter how aroused she is – and if she wants you to give her the maximum pleasure, then she needs to do this. What you need to do is keep going with your fingers, tongue, lips, vibrator or penis, and don’t stop – especially if she’s near her orgasm – keep going at all costs until she tips over into her orgasm!

12 Not respecting the precious moment of penetration

Men don’t always appreciate how much penetration means to a woman: it’s the ultimate act of trust and love, and when a woman to give her body to a man she makes a great emotional investment and perhaps takes a significant risk, especially with a new partner. So this act of love requires sensitivity on the part of the man – and that can be demonstrated in many ways: by looking into her eyes as you push your cock into her vagina; by asking if you may enter her (this can be a romantic and loving aspect of sex, but you probably won’t want to do it every time!); by taking her strongly with manly pride as her lover, when you know that’s what she’ll appreciate; by being sensitive to her needs at all times; and in many more ways as well, no doubt. The key thing is to penetrate her with respect and appreciate the honor she is paying you by taking your penis into her body. Penetrate her sensitively and mindfully every time you do it!

13 Pushing at random in the general area of her vulva with your erect cock

Nothing seems to be as much of a turn-off for a woman (apart possibly from an unwashed penis with a cheesy foreskin) as a man who can’t enter her gracefully. It’s not a problem if you occasionally have to ask her to guide you in! Indeed, if it’s a straight choice between you blindly pushing your penis at her for five minutes before you finally find her vagina, or just asking her to lend a helping hand….well, think about it. Which would you choose if you were in her position?

14 Thrusting hard until you come without thought for her pleasure

From a woman’s point of view, there’s nothing worse than a guy who gets so carried away with his own success (in getting into her in the first place) that he just thrusts away until he comes, without so much as a thought for what she might want. Certainly, there will be times when she is just happy to see you take your pleasure in her body, and come with a powerful and massive ejaculation, but most of the time she’s going to want to be in on the act in a more active way! So start slowly, see how she reacts to your thrusts, and if she obviously wants more of it, then speed up and thrust harder – unless you’re going to come too quickly, in which case you should learn how to control yourself. What she wants is a man in bed, not a two pump chump! You should be able to thrust for long enough to please your partner, at least some of the time, even if that means fifteen minutes’ thrusting before you ejaculate (possibly with a few breaks for rest). If you can’t go on for this long, or you can’t thrust hard enough to give her the pleasure she wants without coming yourself

Couple Pleasuring

Few people realize that there is actually an art to pleasing your partner. That is a large goal of this site, to teach people how to please one another… and themselves.

 

To be able to properly please one another you need to make sure that you have created the proper space, this will help you achieve the desired result. Whenever you perform any of the tantric positions it is very important that you are on a stable and possible firm surface. Generally speaking, your bed is going to be to soft. Consider a yoga mat that is big enough for two people.

 

You may also want to light a few candles to provide a more intimate lighting. Thank the universe for the creation of MP3’s and iPods, they make selecting romantic mood stimulating music that will play during your pleasuring session. Having some quality massage oils and possible a water based lubricant would also help the pleasuring along.

 

Many couples decide that positions where the couple is sitting is ideal. While the position you choose is completely up to you, there are a few things to consider, accessibility and comfort. Neither of these components should be compromised.

 

Typically you can expect to keep the sitting position for awhile you should make certain then that the position you are in is not awkward for you. Naturally this calls for a little experimentation to start with so that you find your ideal position that provides comfort and accessibility to the genital areas.

 

A recommended position is sitting cross legged from each other. One partner might want to use the back of the couch or a wall for support. You also have the option of using flat firm pillows to sit on along with a mat so that you have proper back support.

 

To start the massage it is usually best for one partner to stroke the other and then the roles are reversed. As you are just beginning the massage you will want to limit the intensity… so you only want to incidentally touch the genital area. The whole goal of tantric sex and sensual massage is to slowly build desire and excitement within each partner. The incidentally touching coupled with stroking should last for about 15 minutes.

 

Once you are both aroused each partner should begin to focus their attention onto the genital area of one another. It is now that the woman will being the lingam massage on the man and the man will begin the Yoni massage on the woman. For couples that are of the same sex you will perform a mutual lingam or yoni massage.

 

While pleasuring one another the couple should attempt to make as much eye contact with one another as possible. This may be difficult as each partner may be distracted by the erotic vision of their own, as well as their partner’s genitals being stimulated.

 

 

Sex Story Available

If you are looking for a little literary fun to help get the heat going for yourself or for you and your partner, then I urge you to click the link for the Erotic story just posted under the Erotica page. See the box on the right, click that page and get ready for a cold shower… or an intense session of self gratification… or if you’re lucky… you can grab your partner and let out the excitement the story will cause.

Hunger is a story of a couple, where the woman gives the man pleasure how every he wants it as long as she is in charge and she makes him cum the way she wants him to, while she gets off how she wants to.

http://artofintimacy.wordpress.com/erotica/hunger-an-erotic-story-by-an-anonymous-author/