Movie Marathon

Hmmmm, not really talking about the tear jerking touchy feeling movie here, I am referring to the naughty movies that are out there. Keep in mind that you don’t have to go all out porn. There are a number of excellent erotic movies that are intensely sexual yet not blatant f**king. I know that some people out there enjoy porn, and more power to you… I am just telling you that it isn’t the only option and if your partner isn’t into it maybe you can give erotic film a shot. Here are a few:

The Piano Teacher

In the Realm of Senses

Intimacy

Nine songs

Make It HOT for Him

Oh yes ladies, it is time to think of ways to knock his socks off. If you want to make his orgasm even more intense try this little move. Place two of your fingers about an inch behind his balls, you are feeling for a dent (this is huge pleasure trigger) you want to rub this area for about 30 seconds before he cums… I promise you he will thank you for it.

Get Kinky

You know those nylon stockings that you hate wearing… get out a pair and tie two knots in them and tie it around the base of your partner’s penis. Now… tie it gently because the last thing you want to do is cut off blood flow… Make the tie snug but let it have some give. What this will do is make your mate more sensitive and it offers you a little more stimulation if you are a girl on top kind of girl.

Masturbate

Yes, for some reason, this really turns guys on. Just once… close your eyes and masturbate in front of him. In a way, it can be a “teaching” moment, cause while it is turning him on to watch… he can also be taking a few cues on what makes you moan.

Mirrors

Get a small mirror and place it to the side of where ever the two of you are going at it, make sure it is parallel to his body so that he has an incredible eye popping view of you going down on him.

Texting

Stop, I am not talking about sexting here. This is more of a game to peak his curiosity and get him excited all at the same time. Send single word messages to your man throughout the day… racy one word messages. That alone mean nothing, but when put together tell him precisely what you want him to do to you… or what you want to do to him.

Get Out

Take it outside. You don’t have to find a public spot, where there is a good chance you are going to have an audience. Grab a sleeping bag or quilt and go out in the back yard. If you want to stay inside the sleeping bag, this can make for an incredibly intimate missionary style session… or be daring and use it as a cushion and explore each other out in the open.

Never Have a Headache

Don’t laugh… but if you really want to rev up your libido the answer is NOT putting sex off. Make every effort to have sex each and every day for a month. So forget the “I have a headache” line, (I would like to point out that sex is actually an excellent all natural cure for most headaches)… come on, you can do it. Don’t stop until you orgasm, at least each day.

The Almost Blow Job

First ladies, we need to get over the notion that men only like to be kissed, licked and sucked on the penis. They don’t only like it there… and a test of this… lick and kiss your way down his body, stop just short of his penis… and work your way back up his body. Do this two or three times… until he begs you to stop stopping before you go all the way. One they love getting the attention all over their body… and two even if oral sex is not your forte… he will appreciate whatever you do once you get there. 

This is a book filled with erotic stories, told by a woman that was able to figure out who she was sexually and the man that helped her on that journey. There are incredible stories such as “The Animalistic Blow Job” and “Breaking Me, I Want More”

It is hot hot hot! Will definitely get your juices flowing!

I will get the links up to the different places that book is available as soon as I have them. But if you want to get a book that will ignite the fire, check out Erotically Yours.

You can browse through previous posts, if there is something you would like to see more, get more information on leave a comment and I will get the information out there.

This is your chance to tell me what to write!

I look forward to what you are interested in reading about!

We all love to get a massage… and it seems that if it is our partner doing the massage they do it on the assumption that it is going to lead to sex. Gentleman… and ladies… not all massages are going to lead to sex… because not all massages get the fire ignited. It isn’t that your partner isn’t interested in sex. Hopefully they enjoy sex! It could very well be in the way you are touching her.

There are generally two reasons that the partner doing the massage doesn’t get what they want… they are either afraid of being rejected or they have no idea how to start an erotic massage. Granted on a whole any woman you talk to and ask if she wants a massage and she is going to stop what she is doing and ask where you want her to… But an erotic massage is something else, and really the person getting the massage has to be in the mood for one.

I know, I can hear the men of the world already saying that they are going to get the “I have a headache,” or “Not tonight I am just too tired,” excuses. Honestly men, I have yet to understand why people use the “I have a headache” to get out of sex because it is one of the best cures for a headache I have ever used.

I digress, what I want to stress here is that you can con counteract just about any excuse she is going to throw at you by following what I am about to tell you.

Preparedness

First understand that before you can get what you want… you may have to work her into it… and you can do that with a nice regular massage. Be prepared. Take the time to set up your “stage.” Where ever you plan on seducing her.

Make sure your hands are lotioned and supple.  Your hands should be warm. Nothing makes a woman tense up and jump out of her skin like cold hands… rather counterproductive for what you are going for. Know that when you are applying the oil or lotion you want to put it in YOUR hands first, rub them together and then put it on her body. Make sure your touch is light, you want to peak her arousal… not cause bruises.

Buy some baby wipes, massage lotion or oil (can be scented… lickable… heated…) just make sure it is safe for internal use as well, a towel… and be daring… get a blindfold.

A Full Body Sensual Massage

This… this could be an important piece of information.  You DO NOT have to massage every inch of her body… and you don’t have to just use your hands. Before you jump too far ahead, you can use your arms, chest and stomach to massage her as well… it is really the feel of you against her, using your body to massage her body.

Mmmmmmm… but wait, there is more. If you are uncomfortable using your upper body or don’t think she will appreciate it… use your mouth and tongue. Gentle… wet kissing… licking and feel of warm breath against the skin… guaranteed to elicit an erotic response.

Multi-Task With Your Hands

In order for you to get what you want… you are going to have to give her what she needs. You can use one hand to caress her body while the other hand explores her body… on the inside. Find her G-spot with your finger… touching her… feeling your warm breath on her body… make her climax. Get creative, seductive… tell her you want to blindfold her so that she can completely enjoy what you are about to do. The added bonus here, you take away one of the senses and it heightens the sensitivity of the other senses.

Now it isn’t just about the G-spot…

The Erogenous Zones

Contrary to what most men think… there are other areas of our body aside from our feet, nipples and vagina that can arouse us if they are touched right. The wrists… the ears… the fingers (put her finger in your mouth, close your lips and let your tongue caress her finger as you slowly slid it out of your mouth…. Sigh… moan… luscious)… the back of her neck, the curve of her side… I could go on but I am hoping you get the idea. Lick… kiss… rub… nibble if you want on all these areas and you are going to make her feel amazing. The more you show her how irresistible she is… the more irresistible you are.

This doesn’t mean leave out the clitoris, labia or breasts… it just means that there is more to it than that. Just as there are more ways to arouse you than rubbing your penis… any intelligent woman knows that… and if she doesn’t she should send me an email so I can educate her.

Create a Sensual Bath

No one said that an erotic massage had to stay in the bed… or on the table… or the floor… or the couch. If there is too much oil, move it to the tub. Fill the tub with warm water… bubbles… I recommend the blindfold here as well, and put her in the tub. You can always get in the tub with her… or you can work your magic by staying out.

Create an experience here. Light some candles… incense… maybe even soft music. Use your hands to rub her body… stimulate her insides… until BOTH of you can’t take it anymore. The goal is for her to jump out of the tub… or pull you in… and beg you for more. She might surprise you and just take you right there wherever you are!

Don’t let your sex life stay dull and boring for one more day. Don’t be like any other guy she has been with. Create a night (or morning) that she is going to remember… one that she is going to want you to do again. If you take the time to show her how much she is appreciated… how much she means to you… she is going to be more inclined to repay those acts of kindness with an act of kindness that will rock your world.

And if she doesn’t… have her email me because I will need to educate her on that too.

The ultimate mind body experience is great sex, yet so many people aren’t having great sex… especially women. Now believe it or not… if you are not having great sex, neither is your partner. One they know when you aren’t really enjoying it, regardless of whether they say something… and two they don’t know how to fix it for you. They sex starts in the head… and it does, your own head.

Yoga teaches true mindfulness, in other words, it teaches you how to live in the moment… the present moment. It is hard to enjoy sex when you are thinking about the bills that have to be paid, the kids, work, cleaning the house and so on. Women in general, have a VERY difficult time focusing on sex. This leads to boring… unemotional sex… it becomes one more thing that you have to do… not that you want to do.

My friends, life is too short to not have great sex… and have it as often as possible. Stop expecting your spouse or partner to make it incredible because they can’t if you don’t tap into yourself. I promise you if you take my advice here it will change your life, your entire life… not just the sex.

Cat Pose

I prefer to give you videos on these poses because it is easier to see them done then to have them explained. Here is an excellent video that will help you with doing the pose the correct way: YouTube Video

Why this pose works, it strengthens the Kegel muscles… yes ladies, there is a very good reason that you are told and teased about doing Kegel exercises. These are the muscles that contract during an orgasm. If they aren’t toned… they aren’t going to help you…

Cobra Pose

Here is your video: http://youtu.be/B-q9_fJRSGw

The Cobra pose will help improve your sex life because this pose is all about opening the heart chakra. This pose indirectly connects to your sexual intimacy. The heart chakra is where breath, love and energy come from. This can be a wonderful pose for you and your partner to do if the day has seemed to suck the energy out of you and you still want to feel sexy.

Downward Dog

This is one of my favorite poses because it just forces you to pay attention to your body. This is a nice video because she is going to show you how to do a half dog pose, if you are new to Yoga then you are probably going to want to start with the half dog. http://youtu.be/YYzGPi_267A

Why this pose helps… as I said earlier it forces you to focus on you. Your gaze is only to be on you… take this time to look inward. It is almost as if you are closing your eyes, but don’t. The point of downward dog is to allow you to rest, to help you find inner peace. So that you can turn off your head and focus on you, which is important for great sex.

You can also do downward dog as a couple… and I don’t mean as a position. But downward dog is a wonderful “presex” position due to the fact it warms your body slowly and helps you focus on the moment. If you don’t try any other yoga pose… I recommend this one.

Bound Angle

This pose looks very simple but it isn’t. It is very effective and with practice your flexibility will improve. So I am giving you two videos here, the first one is for those that need to work on your flexibility http://youtu.be/UGbuJwPhE3w. The second one is for those that are pretty flexible http://youtu.be/lpum5wW9Dro.

This is also one that I highly recommend. It works because it helps to open up the hips so that your range of motion will increase and it also heats up the groin area. Improved flexibility and getting the blood flowing where it needs to be are important for great sex.

Plank

Okay, next to downward dog, this is my second favorite Yoga pose. It is an awesome core strengthening make you feel good pose. It looks so simple and you wonder how in the world it can really be providing any benefit until you do it and then you are like “Ahhhh, that is what it does.” There isn’t anyone that can’t do this pose. http://youtu.be/btB13yctCTU

So why does this work, because it makes you feel good. Plank is an awesome confidence boosting strength pose. You have to focus and engage the abdominal muscles to do this the right way and maintain proper form. This move is going to help you transform your body as well. If you start feeling better about what you see in the mirror you are going to start to feel sexier… this is going to help in the bedroom.

These are only five Yoga poses that will help with great sex. The key with Yoga is that you need to do it the right way and you need to do it on a regular basis to get the maximum benefits from it. It is great for men and women and anyone can do it.

Remember that great sex starts in the head… in your own head. It doesn’t matter how phenomenal your partner is if you can’t shut your head off long enough to be in the moment with them. Life is too short to not have great sex and the only thing stopping your from having the sex life that they make movies about is you.

Hopelessly

I walk the wire every night
I can’t decide between wrong and right
I’ve lost control over the thing I do
Cos I’m hopelessly falling in love with you

Now the one who never took a chance
Becomes a victim of circumstance
I’ve lost my way, now I’m so confused
Cos I’m hopelessly falling in love with you
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/r/rick_astley/hopelessly.html ]
All my dreams are far behind me
They don’t matter any more
I don’t care about the things I could lose
Cos I’m hopelessly falling in love with you

Now the one who always played it safe
Becomes another who’s lost his way
I can’t believe it, though I know it’s true
Cos I’m hopelessly falling in love with you

And all my dreams begin to blind me
And I was so confused
And I don’t care about the things I could lose
Cos I’m hopelessly falling in love with you

I’m not gonna fight it, I’m gonna choose
To hopelessly fall, oh yeah
You know I’ll hopelessly fall in love, with you

by Rick Astley

Tonight’s post is inspired… was inspired by someone that is rather incredible.

We are going to start off with what they say are the best sex positions… If you have read the Kama Sutra… I have… there are some positions that are supposed to be incredible taking you to new levels of enlightenment, but they are not the easiest to get into.

Sex is should be enjoyable and the sweat should come from the intensity between the two of you NOT from attempting to balance upside down.

We are going to focus on the men first. The positions that are supposed to be the best for him. I will even offer you a few tips here and there, for example… generally speaking a position where the female is the dominant one is going to help your man last longer. Such as the Cowgirl’s Helper.

For this position you are going to kneel on top of him, using his chest as your stability as you push off his chest you are sliding up and down his thighs. The key here is that he has to support some of your weight by grabbing your hips and thighs as he moves to meet each thrust.

This is less stressful on your legs so that you are able to climax easier, and as I said earlier… it will take him longer. You can spice it up (I recommend that you do) by changing your thrusting from shallow to deep. This will help to stimulate different parts of the vagina.

There is the FlatIron, (oh these position names…) for this position you are going to lay face down with your legs straight and your hips raised SLIGHTLY. The goal here is to create a “snug fit.” Move with him, breathe deeply and you are both going to enjoy this position. This is an easy position, it is comfortable for both of you, it can become incredible erotic if your man’s body is close to yours so that with a turn of the head you are able to kiss… you can easily change to other positions from here as well, to where you are both on your sides.. easier to kiss this way and allows him to explore your body because we all know that there is more than one way to get a women off.

The infamous Missionary position. I think that this position is overlooked because people just assume that this is the position that you are supposed to be in. Personally this is one of the best positions to torture your man in. You can change the angle of your legs, move your hips… push away from him… almost as if you are making him chase you. He can be as close to you as possible or you can be far enough way to see and enjoy each other with your eyes and your hands.

Regardless of the position you are in you have to be able to enjoy what you are doing. If you aren’t it isn’t going to help him… or you. Take the time to pay attention to the way his body responds to what you are doing. Despite what Hollywood wants people to believe there is more to a man than a blowjob and a quickie. Though if you’re smart you will master the blowjob art because it can be the beginning of an incredible time… or at the very least something that can discreetly somewhere else that will lead to something even better when you are alone.

The way you approach love making could be the opposite of what your man really wants.

Your man really doesn’t want you to make sex all about him. Yes you need to make sure he is enjoying himself, but DON’T make him the focus of the love making. Your guy wants to please you as much as you want to please him… and he wants to know he is doing what turns you on. When your man sees your reaction and knows he is satisfying you gives him a huge ego boost which will make the love making even more intense for the both of you.

Another thing your man may not be telling you… there is more than one place to touch him. Yes there is the obvious place but men really have more than one erogenous zone. Consider giving him a total body massage. Pay attention to his ears, neck and other places… surprise him, he will be enjoying the exploration not knowing where you are going to go next extending his pleasurable  experience.

Now this one might really surprise you, but men don’t really like incredibly kinky stuff. While you may have read in some magazine or on the net about some new position to try or a technique that is supposed to knock the guys socks off… you don’t want to go so far that you breach the comfort zone of your guy or your comfort zone.

It is very important that you remember the best way to have incredible sex is to be connected to your partner. Pay attention to the way they respond to what is going on. Sometimes keeping things simple is the most pleasing way to go.